Posted By: mellers on
I'm afraid to say that I didn't enjoy the BBQ yesterday one bit. Mostly because of partner's behaviour yesterday when he was drunk. The guests arrived at 1:30, and by 4 p.m. he had had at least 15 units of alcohol. His speech was starting to slur a little and his behaviour was taking on that sort of risky, "I don't care about who I offend" or give a stuff for social conventions slant that the slightly over-drunk tend to have, and I was trying to give him the "you've had enough" signals. By 5 p.m. he was overtly embarrassing me by some of the things he was saying and I was feeling decidedly uncomfortable in the presence of our guests. He was up to 20 units and I said clearly and (unfortunately I had no choice but to say it in front of everyone) "You've had enough, please have some coffee" at which point an argument ensued when he tried to reassure me and everyone else that he hadn't. I tried to gauge from the rest of the company if I was over-reacting and if they thought he should drink more and it seemed that they thought his behaviour was funny and he should certainly be given more drink. By 7/8 p.m. he was up to about 30-35 units and I was getting worried. As a big and tall man, he can often drink much more than an average person and still give an outward appearance to someone he doesn't know well of sobriety, but I know him well and know the signs of "This is when I have to keep him away from anything breakable". All the time, my discomfort at his increasingly embarrassing comments and behaviour was increasing, but of course as he was drunk, my discomfort meant nothing to him. Something else happened later that evening as a result of his drunkenness, which I won't go in to here, but it was (excuse the term) a sobering experience.
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